Don't you sometimes feel that, by trying to please your friends, you're stepping on eggshells all the time? I've felt like that recently! I know it's impossible to keep everyone happy all of the time, I'm quite happy if I can keep some of my friend's happy most of the time - but I'm really begining to feel like I'm swimming through treacle on this one!
This week I've lost (at least) two supposed friends - one was a bloke who called himself "Sheikh" , we'd only known each other a few weeks on facebook - to give him his due, he did say that he only kept friends on his list that were useful to him, so I guess I was surpless to requirements (mainly after he found out that my friends are married) It did upset me though that he just deleted me on a whim - we'd been chatting happily on the Saturday, but by Monday, I was on the trash heap! OUCH!
However, even MORE painfully, came a message from a dear friend of mine who I've known for years, we used to work together as nannies in Twickenham when we were in our early 20's, she finally contacted me and said that she felt she had no option but to delete me as a friend on her facebook account because of my religious standing- her comment was, " I have the Jehovah's witnesses on my front door, and you on my facebook, I never wanted to change, and if I did, I wouldn't be looking here, I do not feel the need, nor do I want to be influenced" hmm,well, ok, but I HAD been ensuring the Islamic stuff only went to my muslim friends - however, Facebook, in all it's glory had managed to ensure that some of my "non muslim" friends had (metaphorically speaking) fallen out of my "non muslim" file - unfortunately, she was one. I apologised, and begged her to give me a chance, and prove to her that I could send messages and hide the islamic stuff.
Unfortunately, in the process of writing a note this evening - when it came to the privacy settings, I couldn't find her name, she has decided I'm not worth her friendship - ah well, perhaps people just grow too distant! Maybe she was under pressure her end, I mean, she still called me Ruth and I'm obviously muslim with my Islamic name being Amena - which of course is the one I use in Facebook, maybe she came under some wierd peer pressure - who knows, it's just so sad to lose yet another friend because I chose to become Muslim.
It's so sad that people can't see beyond their noses, why do we all have to belong to different sections of society - I'm still a person, I'm a woman, a mother, I work, I cry, I feel pain, I bleed - really I'm no different to anyone else, I JUST call myself muslim, but for that - I (like many reverts) pay a heavy price.
This week I've lost (at least) two supposed friends - one was a bloke who called himself "Sheikh" , we'd only known each other a few weeks on facebook - to give him his due, he did say that he only kept friends on his list that were useful to him, so I guess I was surpless to requirements (mainly after he found out that my friends are married) It did upset me though that he just deleted me on a whim - we'd been chatting happily on the Saturday, but by Monday, I was on the trash heap! OUCH!
However, even MORE painfully, came a message from a dear friend of mine who I've known for years, we used to work together as nannies in Twickenham when we were in our early 20's, she finally contacted me and said that she felt she had no option but to delete me as a friend on her facebook account because of my religious standing- her comment was, " I have the Jehovah's witnesses on my front door, and you on my facebook, I never wanted to change, and if I did, I wouldn't be looking here, I do not feel the need, nor do I want to be influenced" hmm,well, ok, but I HAD been ensuring the Islamic stuff only went to my muslim friends - however, Facebook, in all it's glory had managed to ensure that some of my "non muslim" friends had (metaphorically speaking) fallen out of my "non muslim" file - unfortunately, she was one. I apologised, and begged her to give me a chance, and prove to her that I could send messages and hide the islamic stuff.
Unfortunately, in the process of writing a note this evening - when it came to the privacy settings, I couldn't find her name, she has decided I'm not worth her friendship - ah well, perhaps people just grow too distant! Maybe she was under pressure her end, I mean, she still called me Ruth and I'm obviously muslim with my Islamic name being Amena - which of course is the one I use in Facebook, maybe she came under some wierd peer pressure - who knows, it's just so sad to lose yet another friend because I chose to become Muslim.
It's so sad that people can't see beyond their noses, why do we all have to belong to different sections of society - I'm still a person, I'm a woman, a mother, I work, I cry, I feel pain, I bleed - really I'm no different to anyone else, I JUST call myself muslim, but for that - I (like many reverts) pay a heavy price.
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